Thursday, February 14, 2013

What is Love?

When you hear the words, "What is love?", what is the first thing that comes to mind?

If you're anything like me, you have a nostalgic moment hearing that awesome 90's groove in your head and can't help but start bobbing your head in an unnatural fashion like Will Ferrell in "A Night at the Roxbury".

What is love,
Baby, don't hurt me,
Don't hurt me,
No more.

Let's take a little bit closer look at this though.  Love is normally (and especially on Valentine's Day) associated with good things like romance, flowers, chocolates, cute poems, and fancy dinners.  And when we were all kids we were told stories about princesses and heroes who fell in love and lived happily ever after.

Here's the problem though, that isn't how real life works.  We all know it too.  We keep hurting the people we love.  We can't help it.  When we live in close quarters with other people opinions will differ and disagreements will arise.  And to be frank, we are all selfish.

Ouch!  The truth hurts.

Yep, we live in a J.G. Wentworth society and we want what we want, and we want it now.

So here's my advice to all of the guys and gals out there who have a special someone (or would like to have a special someone) in their life.  Stop being so selfish.  When you stop focusing on yourself you "won't hurt them, won't hurt them, no more."

Ok, here's a real example of how things sometimes happen in my house:

Amanda and I often do the dishes together, she usually washes and I dry.  But, drying is much faster than washing, and after a long day I'm tired (and a bit lazy) and so I want to sit on the couch and wait for some clean dishes to build up before I go and dry them.  My wife on the other hand would love to talk about how our days went.  So instead of sitting on my backside watching Firefly for the umpteenth time on Netflix, I could go into the kitchen, connect with my wife, and make her happier than a cat rolling in catnip.

Challenge to you all, think of one way you can be less selfish to your loved one this Valentine's Day and post a comment letting us know what you're doing to not only make this day special, but to make your relationship a better one for the long haul.


  1. Awwww.... I think your mamma und pappa taught you SOMETHING right. LOL

  2. Well... my husband was certainly sweet. He knows I've been having rough days at work so he just picked up my favorite chinese food for Val Day! The fact that he thought about me not wanting to cook and not wanting to go out late in the middle of the week was what made it extra special.